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31 <br /> and will be sending an email out with the link to register. Beginning January 1, court counselors will no <br /> longer be completing the risk assessment. Instead, they will be using the YASI (Youth Assessment and <br /> Screening Instrument). The information programs will be receiving from court counselors will look much <br /> different and for non-court referred youth, programs will have to complete the entire risk assessment, <br /> instead of just a couple portions. If programs are not able to attend the training they will have to work <br /> something else out with Denise because they will be lost come January when they receive new referrals. <br /> Dispute Settlement Center presentation <br /> JCPC funded a training that Val and Lia were able to attend as park of their development funds they <br /> received through the Expansion funds. The technique that Lia is going to take the group through is called <br /> "Looping" or reflective listening. Lia is going to explain the technique, why she thinks it's useful, and <br /> then do some practicing. <br /> The training that they attended was from the Center for Understanding in Conflict. The topic was "Real <br /> Talk on Race: Dialogue between Races" and was designed to provide professional development for <br /> talking about race and racism in interracial spaces and across power dynamics. This training felt <br /> increasingly important as some of the conflicts they deal with have multiracial components,people, and is <br /> becoming increasingly talked about in some spaces; there are new scales at which these conversation are <br /> happening. <br /> The topic of reflective listening is a tool that people can use to show empathy as a listener, check for <br /> understanding, and make sure the other person is being heard. The exercise at the training was put in two <br /> groups of black indigenous people of color in one caucus and white folks in another caucus receiving <br /> skills about how to tell stories and how to listen. White folks had the practice of reflecting back in hearing <br /> stories from the folks in the black caucus of times when they experienced racial harm. _. <br /> Lia recounted a story of how this practice has been helpful in her work. She met with a middle schooler <br /> who got into some conflict and during this meeting she asked about how they were going to make a plan <br /> to ensure this didn't happen again in school. She asked him what he's was feeling and what was bothering <br /> him during these times when he felt like he wanted to fight. His response was"When I feel like people <br /> don't get me". Instead of marking down his answer and moving on, she used this as an opportunity to <br /> practice reflect listening. She asked,"So you want people to tell you they get it"?His response was that it <br /> was when people pretended they understand. She asked, "So am I hearing you right that you get most <br /> upset when people pretend they understand; that they pretend to get what it's like to be you?Am I. <br /> missing anything?"He said that he also doesn't like it when people pretend to understand what it's like to <br /> hear the names he gets called. She was able to loop further and further towards what was actually <br /> meaningful to him and that discover what was actually bothering him. The issue was that he told a teacher <br /> that someone had called him a racial slur and the teacher said that they knew how he felt and that made <br /> him more upset and felt like he needed to take matters into his own hands. If they hadn't gone all the way <br /> down that road,Lia could have ended up saying the exact thing that his teacher had said to him that made <br /> him upset. <br /> While the exercise of looping and reflecting back seems simple, it is a great way to check for <br /> understanding. Lia demonstrated the method on a less impactful question with a meeting attendee. Lia <br /> will ask a question, reflect back, and ask if she missed anything. The most common thing people miss is <br /> the emotional impact. They often get the fact but miss the feeling. When in doubt,just being able to ask at <br /> the end"did I get that right?"really offers an opportunity for folks after you reflect back to correct you <br /> and make it normal to correct. Not only does it allow for correction, but the validation someone gets from <br /> the process is also affirming. <br />